Hello lovelies.
In my life I have only ever experienced sexism first hand through jokes and 'banter', until recently. I have moved back to Southampton to begin my second year at university and with this means that I have moved out of halls and into a house of my own with 5 of my friends. This has also meant that I have moved into a separate part of the city and more locals live where I live now.
The scenario I am about to tell you has happened to me three times now and I have been back in Southampton for two weeks. I was walking to the train station last week and I was walking down the main high street of the new area I am living in. I was just walking along minding my own business and I looked up and noticed three men walking towards me. I thought nothing of it and kept on walking. As I got closer to them they physically stopped walking, looked me up and down and started saying really derogatory things to me. This was such a shock to me, I couldn't believe they had actually stopped in the street to say sexual things to a stranger. I don't know if the feeling I had from this was offence, I don't get offended by a lot of things, I think I was more disgusted.
I then began thinking if it was my fault that they had done this. At the time I was wearing jeans, a crop top and a jacket. I was questioning whether my choice of outfit had been provocative and so caused them to think they were entitled to say these things to me. I think this is mainly down to society. I know I shouldn't have blamed myself as I can wear what I want, I have every right to. Society, especially the media, focuses and ridicules how women dress. This is a point I have touched on in more detail in another blog post (Victim shaming if you want to go and read it) but the point is being reiterated again here. What gave those men any right to say such personal and disgusting things? I wouldn't stand for anyone I know to speak to me in that manner so why did I just let them? Why didn't I stick up for myself?
I know I have titled this post 'sexism' but does this count as sexism? I would love to know if you could answer any of these questions for me as at the moment I am undecided.
Love LMR.
In my life I have only ever experienced sexism first hand through jokes and 'banter', until recently. I have moved back to Southampton to begin my second year at university and with this means that I have moved out of halls and into a house of my own with 5 of my friends. This has also meant that I have moved into a separate part of the city and more locals live where I live now.
The scenario I am about to tell you has happened to me three times now and I have been back in Southampton for two weeks. I was walking to the train station last week and I was walking down the main high street of the new area I am living in. I was just walking along minding my own business and I looked up and noticed three men walking towards me. I thought nothing of it and kept on walking. As I got closer to them they physically stopped walking, looked me up and down and started saying really derogatory things to me. This was such a shock to me, I couldn't believe they had actually stopped in the street to say sexual things to a stranger. I don't know if the feeling I had from this was offence, I don't get offended by a lot of things, I think I was more disgusted.
I then began thinking if it was my fault that they had done this. At the time I was wearing jeans, a crop top and a jacket. I was questioning whether my choice of outfit had been provocative and so caused them to think they were entitled to say these things to me. I think this is mainly down to society. I know I shouldn't have blamed myself as I can wear what I want, I have every right to. Society, especially the media, focuses and ridicules how women dress. This is a point I have touched on in more detail in another blog post (Victim shaming if you want to go and read it) but the point is being reiterated again here. What gave those men any right to say such personal and disgusting things? I wouldn't stand for anyone I know to speak to me in that manner so why did I just let them? Why didn't I stick up for myself?
I know I have titled this post 'sexism' but does this count as sexism? I would love to know if you could answer any of these questions for me as at the moment I am undecided.
Love LMR.
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