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The way we look

Hi lovelies!
Do you ever have that moment where you are listening to a song and the lyrics completely sum up how you're feeling? Well today I had this. Just got in from a lush night out with my friends and put on an old Jessie J CD. 'Who you are' came blaring through my speakers and I just sat and listened to it. It completely summed up my day and how I've been feeling for well, quite a while.

Recently I've become a bit self conscious and I thought it was just me. I discovered that I'm not alone. I spoke to some of my friends about it, boys and girls alike, and we all feel a degree of self consciousness. I believe this is down to the pressure we put on ourselves to look 'perfect' for other people and to fit into social expectation.
When I look in a mirror instead of picking out things that look okay I only see the things that don't look great. My hair is a bit messy, my top doesn't sit right, my make up has faded or something new I've found that day. As I've got older this has developed into a bigger issue. I think for me it's because I try and impress other people with how I look rather than doing it for myself. My mum said the other day 'Sarah you should look nice for no-one else but yourself' and since then I've been thinking about the topic.

How people are portrayed in the media has a effect on what the current generation deem to be beautiful etc. This leads everyone to want to buy the same things and look the same way. I think we need to step away from this. If I stopped comparing myself to other people I wouldn't have anything to be self conscious about as I wouldn't have to live up to anyone else's expectations.

My message is, sorry this post is a bit long winded, don't lose who you are in the midst of other peoples perceptions of 'beautiful' because your unique self is beautiful. I think I need to start to take my own advice and get back to who I am and not go to an effort to impress a boy or to live up to other peoples expectations.

Sorry I went on a rant, just a thought I had and had to write it down!
Let me know your thoughts in the comments below!
Love
LMR xx

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